Children, The Family and Health: What it Takes to Give Children Long Life
The Hawaii Workshop: Love is to accompany your children for growth
“Teacher Chen, when my child was young, I quitted my job in order to bring him with full of my heart. But, now, he grows day by day, and he often dislike my nagging…”
“What shall I do? My little son now studies in the 3rd grade of Primary School. He is a good boy, but never says any sweet words. I don’t know when he makes his teacher anger at him? Recently, his teacher bite him every day…”
“My daughter’s study record is good, but later when I came to her school, I found that he seemed no any friend…”
“Teacher Chen, my child now is a student of 4th grade of the Primary School, I don’t know if he has to go to the supplemental school to make-up for Children English?”
“Hi, my son is fun at playing the Electrical Slotting Machine. Once he has money, he will spend it to play for the game! Although I, in the capacity of his father, hit him many time, it is useless! I don’t know how to educate him?”
“Teacher Chen, my child’s teacher is really unfair, and he never let my child have any chance to perform…”
For those years, I often invited by many primary schools and high schools to lecture in the parents meetings. Whenever, my speaking was ending, there were lots of parents who told me about the troubles and problems of them.
Especially, many mothers who often told me cried with large water drops from their eyes.
From the expression of the parents, I strongly fell that their love and expectation to their children in absolutely true and the same. However from their eyes and depressed faces, I learn that they are helpless.
All of the parents said that they loved their children. However what love is? How to love without any fault?
In the campus, all dear teachers, please answer me how much you implement the education with your love? Why there are still so many parents are still in doubt and complaint?
Parents, children, plus teachers in the school, it seems that there are many problems on education.
In my personal viewpoint, only the parents and teachers could really realize and understand the inside mind of your children, and this problem can be solved.
“Feeling to be loved, the child shall not become bad easily” is always my idea in the teaching road for twenty years. And let children say their inside mind is the right way to help them for growth.
The children are the most precious source of a nation, and they are the hope of the human beings for the future society. They are a precious stone without polishing and engraving, and surely are the beautiful burden of all the parents.
A little seedling shall be given the sun and water for its growing, except that, the diligent trimming is the necessary caring step. From the little child to become a mature individual, the process of growing with healthy and open-minded will be finalized.
The love of parents for their children is a nature. But, love, which is a human behavior, has to be learned and rectified in the life. Therefore, love won’t be given too much or too little.
Dear parents, we all quite clear that there is nothing can compare to your love for your children. But, sometimes we give our children inappropriate love, which is often more horrible than hate and has a serious injury. Thereby, in the expression of love, we have to cultivate ourselves with wisdom.
Love is to accompany your children for growth. And love is to give your children confidence and encouragement.
The period of being youngsters is the most beautiful process in the life, but it is also full with troubled, dangers, and risks. I hope that understanding the youngsters can let all parents and teachers help their children to be healthy, open-minded, and confident through their loves and wisdoms.
My deep feeling to them is that many parents and teachers said they loved their children and students, but who so much the hearts of the young, they escape and slip away such kind of love?
What’s the degree of appropriate love without bringing any pressure for the children? How to take care of them without negligence?
This is the important lesson for the parents and teachers to study.
“Don’t walk ahead before me, because I dislike to follow; don’t walk behind me, because I don’t want to be a leader; I only expect that you could accompany with me and walk same as mine!” is a famous philosophical motto, I think that it is the echo of the young in the world.
Hoping that all parents and teachers can think about the question from the pointview of the children whenever the conflict has raised.
Also hoping that all the young can take care of themselves and have the obligation mind to enjoy their life without loneliness.
Last Modified: November 29, 2002